Another reason to be kind

In each instance, we readily forgive our own minds but look harshly upon the minds of other people.

I found this nice 2012 article on r/psychology about how our experience and intuition fool us into making wrong predictions. The emphasis in the article is on underestimating others and overestimating ourselves. It says that there’s no amount of knowledge about the thinking errors and biases that will make our thinking quality better but it can make us slow down and invest more effort when we recognize that we would like good results.

Not sure if the article is worth a $6 subscription but is definitely worth the read, and so is the main source for it – the book Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.

The biggest challenge over the next 6 months

Daily writing prompt
What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months?

An easy answer would be some individual problem, like health, loss, or work. The hard answer is – dealing with uncertainty without dwelling on the endless negative outcomes. I need my imagination to be helpful.

People have come to many ways to calm their fortune-telling never-ending internal narrator:

  • Meditation. Whatever the future, focus on the present. Life is simple in the now. Ignore the past.
  • Religion. If God will take care of all of us after all, why worry about the future? Study the very distant past.
  • Psychology. Whatever the future, nobody can take away your past.
  • Capitalism. Imagine this fantastic new car, don’t bother with the other things. Go shopping for dopamine highs.
  • News. Be afraid, be very afraid. We will use your internal narrator to make you come back and buy things.

And so on. It is a long search.

The drop

In 1998, I had the privilege of studying under the old accounting professor Kosta Pergelov (may he rest in peace). He would love to sneak philosophy into his lectures. One of his proverbs stuck in my mind. He would stand in front of the full hall with about 100 students and slowly yell if you can imagine slow yelling:

Colleagues! The drop drills the stone not with force but with persistence.

I adopted that in my personal belief system. Perhaps it helped that Professor Pergelov would repeat the proverb every other lecture with his signature slow yelling.

Give the drops enough time and they’ll carve a path to the stars.

Partial rewrites

Every complex software system tends to have sub-systems that are in the process of being rewritten but stuck in limbo. I call this myself the Hydra, although it’s a term that doesn’t exist outside of my head.

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The subject of second systems deserves a full essay but while I sit on it and finish the books I have in mind, let’s enjoy this gem from Artur’s blog:

A complex system that works is invariably found to have evolved from a simple system that worked. A complex system designed from scratch never works and cannot be patched up to make it work. You have to start over with a working simple system.

Gall’s law

Can money make you happier?

Lack of money can make you unhappy but does more money above a certain threshold bring happiness? No.

I’ll try to prove that with pseudo-math and book references.

First, can we have a functional relationship between money and happiness? Is there a function Happiness = f(money) where the curve is logarithmic? It’s clear that whatever the relationship is, it is not a curve. Plenty of rich people are on social media and they look busy, and some of them are miserable, not happy. At the same time, there has to be a monk out there with zero money and powerful spirituality close to Nirvana.

Obvious correlations exist elsewhere.

Age

There’s a clear relationship between Age and Happiness. Kids are as happy as a human can be, and so are the elderly (source). Who’s the unhappiest? Working-age adults, and the older they are, the unhappier. The chart with wealth? Almost the opposite (source).

Although correlation doesn’t mean causation, you can say that if Happiness = f(a, b, ...n), one of the parameters is age.

The high of shiny new things

Money can get you items and experiences. More money can get you more items and more pleasant experiences. Purchases make us happy by releasing endorphins and dopamine, and also perhaps by improving our lifestyle a little bit. However:

  • The high we can possibly get from a purchase is limited by our brain chemistry
  • The high from shopping is a function of anticipation and uncertainty. A kid saving a year for an iPad would get a lot more than a billionaire purchasing a new Ferarri. A sandwich tastes better when you are hungry.
  • It’s easy to improve the lifestyle if you’re deprived but hard to do if your needs are met

We can experiment with that – write in a journal how happy you felt from buying different items. An expensive purchase, like a new car, can be no better than a pair of shoes that fit well. A new iPhone can be equal to a cold Coke Zero on a hot summer day or worse. This topic is a can of worms that inspired marketers and philosophers to write books over the last 3 centuries. The satisfaction is measurable, limited, and based on things like goals, needs, risk, and anticipation, not only the price paid.

The curse of the lottery winners

The high increase in income puts people in situations for which they are not prepared to be and pulls them outside of their social circle. A good and very scientific book on the subject is The Winner by David Baldacci. It shows details on the catastrophic impact of quick money on people stating that the vast majority of lottery winners go bankrupt within 2-3 years of their win. The same can be seen with sports stars. Many of them fail once they enter the life of expensive cars, parties, and financially motivated partners in all areas of life – from intimate to business. Another nice fiction book on the subject is Sooley by John Grisham.

So, watching lottery winners and sports stars shows us that the quick exponential growth in wealth comes with changes in social circles and personal life that negatively impact happiness. What about slow growth, that gives people time to adjust and find new social circles? That should work! However, the threshold may never be reached, and the question assumes an imaginary threshold above which no added amount of money makes the person happier.

Before and after ambition

It’s human to compete and strive for more, however, it’s not universally true for all ages.

Would a 1-year-old be happier if they had lots of money, a leather stroller, and servants? They’d likely be happy if they were healthy, dry pants, fed, loved, and slept well. What about a 100-year-old person? Would they be happier if they were the world’s first trillionaire? They’d probably be happiest if they were healthy, well-cared, loved, with good memories of a meaningful life.

Ambition likely is part of the equation for happiness, and so is having a purpose in life.

Recent studies

A great article on the subject was published today that shares the insights by a research group that includes Daniel Kahneman. It mentions two amounts of money that cap happiness – $75K calculated in 2010 and $500K from 2023. Whatever the cap is, the researchers estimated not one but two. I would take the amount with a grain of salt but their overall conclusions matched my expectations.

The search for happiness is related to money up to a point. Other factors have a stronger impact – relationships, health, love, faith, purpose in life, ambition, and so on. Happiness may not be a good life goal at all. I wrote an essay about the Sense of Purpose 6 years ago, and I still believe it.