What is one question you hate to be asked?

Daily writing prompt
What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.

For me, the most hated question is any opener that leads to someone asking for money. For example:

“Do you have a watch?”

“It’s three fifty.”

“Lots of good things will happen to you—I can see it. Let me read your palm.”

Whenever strangers ask questions like that, I instinctively pick up my pace and don’t respond. For some reason, the most common one I hear is about the time—or, more specifically, whether I have a watch.

It’s trickier when people ask for directions. That one still fools me sometimes.

“Hey, how do I get to the National Theater?”

“Right this way,” I say, pointing in the right direction.

“Do you want a flower for health?”

I don’t mind when people ask for change—it’s their job. But using trivial questions as an opener makes me a worse person because I might end up walking past someone who genuinely needs help.

Since I aim for 10,000 steps a day, I have plenty of encounters with strangers—maybe once or twice a week. Most of the time, it’s just people struggling to find something that’s supposed to be there according to Google Maps but isn’t.

Which outdated technology do you miss the most, and why?

I miss the idea of IRC.

IRC is a technology that gives us a decentralized networks of chat servers, allowing people to meet like-minded strangers. It used to be (maybe) the most popular way to chat online before ICQ and Skype changed everything. I spent years of my life there as a teenager and young adult.

Unlike email, IRC didn’t age well. The whole thing started falling apart due to limitations of how big channels could be while remaining usable. Also, spam, hacks, profanity, botnets, and ToS violations invaded. IRC is still alive but with a low number of daily active users.

We now have Discord and Slack but they suffer one little flaw. They’re for-profit companies.

Do you believe in karma?

Karma means that our actions accumulate imaginary good and bad points, which we eventually cash out. While we can find anecdotal evidence this is true, it can also be a major source of anxiety. The expectations usually don’t match reality.

Let’s imagine, for a moment, that karma exists in two forms:

  1. Positive Karma – You do something good and receive an unrelated reward.
  2. Negative Karma – You do something bad and get penalized in an unrelated way.

Negative Karma

FAFO (F*** Around and Find Out) undeniably exists—actions have consequences, sometimes immediate and harsh. Speeding increases your chances of a crash. Drinking and driving can still get you pulled over and your car taken. FAFO.

The idea of negative karma assumes that good and bad karma points don’t cancel each other out. You can save an abandoned kitten, put it in your car, then drink and drive—and FAFO will produce the same result, regardless of your earlier good deed. The kitten might even increase the odds of a crash.

The problem with believing in negative karma is that life constantly hits us with setbacks. Small ones, big ones, unexpected ones. Was that bad news today caused by my road rage last night? Probably not. A lot of what happens to us is random. Believing in karma can make us assume responsibility for things completely unrelated to our actions, which can be mentally exhausting.

Positive Karma

The reverse-FAFO is even more suspicious-the idea that doing good leads to good things happening to us.

Giving money to a beggar might make us feel great. But was it truly a “good” act? Maybe, maybe not. Then, five minutes later, something positive happens. Was it caused by our kindness, or was it just coincidence? Likely the latter. Most good deeds don’t trigger rewards, and many aren’t even really good.

This positive karma idea ties to a cognitive distortion called “Heaven’s Reward Fallacy”—the belief that if we put in effort and do good, we are guaranteed a positive outcome. Sometimes, yes. But just as often, the opposite happens.

People have understood this for thousands of years. In Bulgaria, there’s a saying: “Do good and throw it behind your back.” In other words, do good without expecting a reward. Some of that is also in the Bible (Matthew 6:1-4). The biblical positive karma exists as long as you do your good deeds in secrecy.

Do I Believe in Karma?

I believe we should be kind and understanding toward each other—not because the universe will reward us, but because life is tough. The only way to make it tolerable is if we all make an effort and help each-other.

So, do I believe in karma? No. But I do believe in the principles behind it: We should hold ourselves to a high standard, take responsibility for our actions, and strive to do good—without expecting the universe to pay us back.

Advice to my teenage self

Daily writing prompt
What advice would you give to your teenage self?
  • You’ll regret more the things you didn’t do than the things you did and went wrong but don’t be hard on yourself anyway
  • When you’re in your early 20s, you’ll stop going to the gym, stop going to the mountain and stop playing football. Don’t do that, staying active is important. Maybe ditch the football, you’ll need those knees

Good luck!

Am I Patriotic?

Daily writing prompt
Are you patriotic? What does being patriotic mean to you?

Patriotism is a complex quality with both positive and negative aspects. Some people express it by putting a flag on their car, while others hate the rival countries. Maybe wear a tattoo with a national hero. Very few will join the army or the police out of a desire to serve the country, wearing a tattoo or putting a sticker is much easier.

My form of patriotism is that I live in my country, respect the laws, pay my taxes, recycle my plastic & paper, and do small acts of kindness that improve the quality of life in the community. I did my mandatory military service. I think the sum of all of that adds up to at least one tattoo per month. Add that I don’t smoke and litter, and I think I would be an extremely patriotic Bulgarian.

I feel like patriotism shouldn’t come with any sort of pride or feeling of superiority. We can be proud with our efforts and accomplishments but it’s completely pointless to be proud of my area of birth. Being proud that I’m born in Sofia is like being proud that I’m Aquarius.