Shaped by experience

Daily writing prompt

Do you think we’re shaped more by our experiences or by who we are?

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I used to believe in the idea that we shape our own futures, at least to a large extent, unless something catastrophic gets in the way. I read Ayn Rand and found her perspective appealing.

Then I had kids.

My children are so different that it’s hard to believe. From a very young age, they had distinct personalities, different strengths, and different abilities to focus on the things that interested them. I now believe that nature has a greater influence than nurture, even though nurture still matter a great deal and shouldn’t be underestimated. You may have a much higher odd of becoming a pro basketball player if you’re super tall but you won’t if you don’t put in the hours.